Whatsoever meaning we give to life, we give it to life. And the Buddha says, if you want to know the real meaning of life, then you have to drop giving all meanings to it. Then life opens its mysterious doors. You stop giving meaning to it—your desires are giving meaning to it; they are defining the undefinable. And if you remain clouded with your desires, whatsoever you know is nothing but your own dreaming. That’s why we say in India that this life, this so-called life lived through desires, is maya, it is a magical thing. You create it, you are the magician. It is your maya, your magic.
We don’t live in the same world, remember. We live in separate worlds because we don’t live in the same desires. You project your desires; your neighbour is projecting his desires. That’s why when you meet a person and you want to live with a person, with a woman or with a man or with a friend, difficulties arise. That is a clash of two worlds.
Everybody is good alone. Together, something goes wrong. I have never come across a wrong person, but every day I come across, I have to watch, see, and observe wrong relationships. It seems almost all relationships are wrong. Because two people live in two desire worlds, they have their own magical worlds. When they come together, those worlds clash.
Tie two people together—that’s what a marriage is—and see what happens. Suddenly two worlds… It seems almost impossible to understand the woman you love. It should not be so—you love her—but it seems impossible to understand. It is impossible to understand the man you love. It should not be so—you love him—but it seems impossible to understand.
It is very easy to understand strangers; it is very difficult to understand people who are very close. To understand your mother, father, brother, sister, friend, is very difficult. The closer you are, the more difficult—because the worlds are clashing.