The second question ‘Mera Kaun’ leads us a step further on this path of true knowledge of self and our existence. Once we come to realise that, in truth, I am not what I seem to be or what I identify myself with, I should also try to understand the truth of my surroundings and the persons who are often found around me.
When we say ‘mine’, there comes a sense of right or authority and an idea of possession. But with social human relations ‘Mera Kaun’ (who is mine) may not show that right of possession or authority and it would stand for good and useful expectation. In other words, such a thing or relation is expected to prove prove useful and helpful in times of my need. If we think that relations, or at least, some basic relation are one’s own, one needs to think again. No doubt some relations are fundamental like one’s parents, father and mother, while other relations of brother, sister, husband, wife, children, uncle, aunts etc. may be treated as secondary. I call them secondary because one may or may not have some or many of these relations. These days, when the norm is of small families and people try to limit their family to one or two children, one may or may not have a brother or a sister. During the course of one’s life one may not marry at all and, as such, the relations of husband, wife, children etc. become redundant for him/her.
The complexities of life are such that even I, despite my sincere efforts, may not be of much use to my relatives in times of their need.
Again, there is another aspect to this question of ‘Mera Kaun’. Many of our relatives pass away quite early in our life and we don’t find them around us in times of our need. Say father, mother, husband, wife, brother, sister, son, daughter, etc.,. may not be with us when we seem to need them the most.
However, when I am lucky to have most of these relations, do they stand by me in times of my need? It is not blaming one or more relations. But the complexities of life are such that even I, despite my sincere efforts, may not be of much use to my relatives in times of their need. Every life is different and unique in its own way. Therefore, its needs and also the expectations are different.
Think for a moment and say ‘can we name any of our relations with whom I have never had any complaint or dissatisfaction?’. Have I never found anything lacking in the conduct of that person? We generally avoid such questions with the phrase ‘no man can ever be perfect’. Of course it is a fact, but do we really accept it? Don’t we make complaints and even break relations or grow hostile with someone who fails to come up to our expectations in times of our need? Did we tell ourselves at such a time that, ‘no one is perfect’?’
When slowly and gradually the truth of the self and reality of relations dawns upon us, we understand the true meaning and significance of spiritual learning. It is only then that man’s true spiritual growth and development starts. Let us not associate such learning with being an ascetic or a sanyasi or having vairag. Learning the truth has always been a high quality of one’s character – be it the truth about the working of a natural law or the life itself.
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