Many of us have this inbuilt defense mechanism to withdraw ourselves from a situation when we perceive a possibility of being emotionally hurt or rejected. The down side of this is that in an effort to save ourselves from whatever is being hurled at us, the withdrawal may progress into long term resentment if we hold on to it.
We may go into an unhealthy silence and depression if not dealt with in the right way. This is where spirituality comes in. An understanding that I am a soul and not the body is the key to turning around the unhealthy withdrawal mentioned above, into a spiritual power to withdraw.
I, the soul, am separate and independent from the body. We have to train our mind to withdraw from body consciousness. What this means is, instead of identifying myself with the ego traits of the body such as fear, anger, hurt etc., I detach myself from the challenging situation and stay focused on the thought that I am a soul and my true nature is love, compassion, acceptance, fearlessness, forgiveness etc. as that particular situation requires. Armed with this understanding, when we withdraw into our inner self, we will regain our inner balance and be in a better position to deal with the situation.
The analogy for the ability to withdraw is that of a turtle that withdraws into its shell at the first sign of danger.
Another aspect of this ability to withdraw can be applied in our day-to-day interactions with others. More often than not, during or even after a conversation is over, be it trivial, pleasant or unpleasant; we are unable to come out of it and are pulled into repeating it over and over in our mind.
This depletes our energy. Once again, we have to center ourselves and identify with the soul and not the role. The analogy for the ability to withdraw is that of a turtle that withdraws into its shell at the first sign of danger.
Having said this, we cannot expect to pass a tough exam without preparing for it. Similarly, we cannot expect to withdraw and stay calm after a tough situation hits us. So how do we prepare for it? Yes, you got it, through meditation and practice.
During the early morning meditation, we reaffirm: “I, the soul, am a child of the Supreme soul. Peace, purity, happiness, love, bliss is my natural nature. Regardless of the happenings outside, I have the ability to stay calm. Also, by practising this soul consciousness throughout the day by setting a 1-minute ‘time-out’ alarm every hour and even during coffee, tea and lunch break whether at work or home, I am able to improve my focus.”
Let us explore our inner sanctuary today.
The Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University (BKWSU) is an international non-governmental organisation, which intends to help individuals re-discover and strengthen their inherent worth by encouraging and facilitating a process of spiritual awakening.