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Love in the true sense

What is true love? People may have different definitions of it, but many of us must agree that true love is altruistic and unconditional; it means loving others without expecting something in return from them. However, we find it difficult as we want a return for everything we give, including love. We begin to expect things. From that expectation, comes need, even jealousy, and also attachment—the notion that we deserve to get back something because of the love that we give to others—and then unhappiness is experienced when our expectations are not met.

If we expect something in return, is it really love? Certainly not. The first and foremost aspect of true love is the pure intention and capacity to offer joy and happiness without any condition. To develop that capacity, we have to look at Mother Nature. Nature expresses itself through unconditional love. It gives abundantly, altruistically and unconditionally, and also almost indiscriminately.

Life would not have been possible on earth, because, nature’s way of working is to give as it has everything in abundance.

We can observe examples of such expression in trees that provide oxygen, shade and shelter to all impartially, even to those who cut its branches or cut it down completely, and in the sun that nourishes the earth every day, rising and setting unfailingly. What will happen if all of nature’s elements start asking for a return for their services? What will occur if we had and have to pay taxes to get sunlight or the air to breathe?

Life would not have been possible on earth, because, nature’s way of working is to give as it has everything in abundance. It never asks for a return. The sun gives light to everybody; trees give shade to all, and water quenches the thirst of all. This happens because they follow and act according to their real nature. Similarly, the real and essential nature of the human being is love, peace, and bliss. When we realise our real and essential nature, we become ‘love personified’ and we won’t have to keep any conditions for giving our love to others. But, when we forget the essence of our true and original spiritual nature, we indulge in competition and one-upmanship in life. The only way to be free again is to realise the self and start being selfless. The more we give selflessly, the happier we will feel.

The Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University (BKWSU) is an international non-governmental organisation, which intends to help individuals re-discover and strengthen their inherent worth by encouraging and facilitating a process of spiritual awakening.


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