Loving someone with anxiety takes patience and understanding. Here’s how you can help

Imagine someone sitting quietly, their hands slightly sweaty, heart racing for no reason, thoughts moving faster than they can control. Chances are, they could be having anxiety.

Anxiety often shows up in small but intense ways, such as constant worry, fear that’s hard to explain, tightness in the chest, or a mind that never truly rests. From the outside, these signs may seem minor, but for the person living with them, they can feel overwhelming.

Most symptoms of anxiety can be very challenging to deal with. And anxiety doesn’t always come and go; it can shape how someone thinks, feels, sleeps and even connects with others. Even simple tasks can feel heavy, and everyday situations that seem perfectly normal for others can feel frightening or stressful.

According to the World Health Organisation, anxiety disorders are the world’s most common mental disorders, having affected almost 359 million people in 2021. Although there are highly effective treatments for anxiety disorders available, only about 1 in 4 people in need receive any treatment. This means millions of people struggle quietly, often without the support or care that they truly need.

Key findings on anxiety by the National Institutes of Health states that such disorders are among the most common mental health conditions and are linked to high levels of emotional and physical burden; they are often underrecognized and undertreated. However, with the right support, one can learn to manage their anxiety and improve their quality of life.

But living with a spouse, partner or loved one who has anxiety can be tough. One may feel helpless, confused or emotionally drained at times. But with patience, kindness and understanding, a big difference can be seen. Learning about anxiety and offering love without judgement can help both parties feel seen, supported and less alone. So, join us as we explore ways to support a dear one with anxiety.

Give space to speak, feel, be heard

One of the most helpful things one can do for someone with anxiety is to truly listen, without rushing to fix or explain everything. Allowing them to share their worries and fears without judgment or interruption is essential. Even if their concerns seem irrational, they are real to them. Simply acknowledging their feelings and showing understanding can bring comfort and make them feel less alone.

As Joseph McGuire, Ph.D, a paediatric psychologist with Johns Hopkins Medicine, states, “People are often dismissive of people experiencing anxiety. With other medical illnesses, you may be able to see physical symptoms. But with anxiety, you don’t necessarily see what the person is dealing with. So, it’s important to be sensitive to what the person with anxiety is going through, even if it doesn’t make sense to you.”

Indeed, listening with kindness and patience can make one feel seen, respected and supported during difficult moments.

Learn about triggers

As a caregiver, it is important to learn what triggers anxiety for a person. And remember, triggers are not always obvious; they can be different for everyone. Taking time to understand what sets off a near and dear one’s anxiety shows care, patience and a willingness to support.

Experts identify several triggers such as certain situations, environments, thoughts and even physical sensations. So, learning what causes stress or panic for a loved one can help one prepare better for difficult moments. This also helps one respond with more understanding rather than frustration.

By noticing patterns, one can be better equipped to support a loved one with care. Further, paying attention to lifestyle habits, stress levels and physical health can help.