How many times do you think “Oh! I don’t want my spouse to get upset with me!” “If I say this, my sister would be really upset with me.” “Oh boy, if I miss today’s meeting, my boss would be very upset with me”.
All our life, we really think or at least don’t want to upset people around us. Concern and care is different from worry. We do have to take care of the feelings and emotions of people around us or generally any human being for that matter. But we do really get caught up with too many thoughts about what people’s reactions would be to our actions. There is fear of people’s reactions towards me.
This fear:
So why do I get this fear? What causes it?
This is because I am too concerned about others. When I am doing something beneficial and righteous (in the true sense, not something right in view), I have to let go of the fear and use my courage to go ahead and do it. I need not bother about people getting upset with me. It is okay. They will understand one day. Eventually they will get my point and pure intention.
I do what I have to do. If I keep holding my decisions or actions until the other person is pleased or approves, I can never be happy and peaceful, nor can I hope to accomplish anything worthwhile. I will be stuck up and can only describe my misery. For example, if I love doing social work on weekends and if my friends are upset with me because of my non-availability for a party or so, I can follow my heart and need not worry about people getting upset with me.
Not always, one can explain the reasoning for one’s actions. One’s pure and good intentions cannot be understood sometimes by another. The other might not find sense in something that the other cherishes. Giving space to others is very essential, but if you are not given your space, stop worrying and feeling bad; go ahead and let time explain everything for you. I should also develop a ‘never mind’ attitude. It is necessary to free myself from all the above mentioned emotions of fear because fear steals peace.
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