Never force anyone to accept your views

Never force anyone to accept your views

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We all have to interact with so many people in our workplaces or businesses. All of them are different, with different ideas and different thought processes.

As an individual, I may have a certain mindset, ideology, or way of thinking. However, it may not be necessary that everyone else will be like me or accept my ideas.

This is where the real challenge starts. But the good news is that if we learn the knack of dealing with all kinds of people, especially those who are different from us, success is virtually assured.

Trouble is, the reverse of this also holds true.

You only have to look around to realise how much trouble ‘imposing’ an idea on others causes.

All too often, people even get physical with others to prove their point of view. But Chanakya warned that this is simply not acceptable while describing the ways of violence: “Touching, menacing and striking constitute physical injury.” (3.19.1).

Note that his three types of violence are considered a crime even by modern law.

Touching

This is that type of violence, which is usually not thought through. It’s more of a reaction, like pushing, slapping or even beating. It comes at the end of a prolonged argument which was full of ‘ifs and ‘buts’.

Basically, it’s the transition from a verbal duel into a full-fledged physical fight. But it’s important to understand how essential it is to control yourself in a hot-tempered discussion.

Menacing

This means threatening. It may not be a physical fight at first, but Chanakya categorises it here as a physical injury since it can ‘lead’ to one.

For example, when you threaten someone with the words “I will take care of you later”, the promise itself will pull you back into a fight with the intention of hitting and causing more damage. So do not even think of menacing anyone.

Striking

This is the worst act of all. Striking can be hitting outright with weapons and other harmful objects. At times, the objective is even to kill the person, making it the worst form of physical injury.

Remember, arguments—even heated discussions—are unavoidable. But you can avoid imposing your views on others. If there’s no solution, it’s best to approach seniors, discuss and solve the problem.

Dr Radhakrishnan Pillai is an Indian management thinker, author, and Founder of Atma Darshan and Chanakya Aanvikshiki. Dr Pillai has extensively researched Kautilya’s Arthashastra, the 3rd century BC treatise and incorporated it into modern management.

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