Forgiveness works like a miracle. It takes away the ill-feelings which gnaw at our own mind. There is no easy or simple way to define forgiveness. Forgiveness is a bridge that all of us need to cross at one time or another in our lives. Forgiveness is an act of will which we have to carry out consciously and deliberately. Forgiveness is an attitude of compassion and understanding with which we choose to react to the world. Forgiveness is not a one-off action – it is a process by which we evolve towards tolerance and acceptance. Forgiveness is self-restraint, self-control, self-discipline, through which we transcend our lower selves.
Forgiveness need not be a struggle – if we realise that it is also a great gift and a blessing.
Putting forgiveness into practice –
Forget the past. Someone has said, “More difficult than forgiving others is to forgive oneself.” As we forgive others, let us learn to forgive ourselves. God is the ever-forgiving one and forgives us whenever we go to Him with repentance in our hearts. We need to forgive ourselves. Therefore, let us learn from our mistakes and drop, once and for all, the burden of our errors and sins. Do not carry the heavy load of guilt, resentment and anger into the future. Eventually, the load will break you spiritually and emotionally. Learn your lessons from the mistakes of the past – and forget the mistakes themselves.
Empty your mind of all negative emotions. Get rid of fear, hatred, envy, and bitterness systematically, when you sit down in silence and reflection.
Let goodwill flow out of you towards everything and everyone.
It takes guts to forgive. Cultivate the determination and strength of mind required for forgiveness, so that you can forgive without strain.
Be aware of your own mistakes. When we consider our own weaknesses, it is easier for us to understand others’ shortcomings.
Develop positive thoughts about the other person. Speak kindly about him.
It helps to write a letter or a note of goodwill to the other person. This reinforces your positive feelings, puts them on record, as it were.
Forgive in the Name of the Lord. Forgive others even as He forgives us all for our many failings. Draw your strength and courage from Him, who is the source of all mercy.