The ability to absorb and accept

The power to tolerate: The ability to absorb and accept

“Difficult circumstances are like a mirror and we see ourselves in our real colors.” - Alka Patel

If I say I have to tolerate, then there is actually no power in me. When I deal with the situation, circumstance or person with love then there is no feeling of tolerating.

Tolerant people are like brick walls. No matter what they are up against, they rebound and yet remain strong and secure and loving. It’s all about absorbing and accepting. A paper towel is able to absorb and soak up water. Gardens and fields are able to withstand any type of weather. Can we be the same and yet keep on smiling?  Without a doubt…read on.

A resounding yes. Willpower and determination can move mountains. Each of us is a living human tree that go through all four seasons; everyone’s capacity to tolerate is different. Inner strength comes from understanding. As I stand still I begin to understand that actually, I am not tolerating, but just have a big and generous heart to accept and absorb what is coming towards me. If, like the ocean, I am able to accept anything that comes my way with open arms then life becomes easier, relationships are happier. When I resist something, problems occur and even escalate.

When I think deeply about it, tolerance is my life long companion and patience is my friend. Both are required throughout the day at different moments, and so are with me, like my shadow as I move along in life.

Tolerance is just a dance, stepping in and out at the right moment. How do I re-act, relate and tolerate everyone around me, those I work with and those I live with. Each moment a different dance technique is required in this dance of life… Sometimes a tango, sometimes a waltz…. Quick, quick, quick; slow, slow, slow.

Flowers continue to grow and blossom even though weeds are beside them. In the same way, I am living in a world where there are people around me who are so different, yet how do I respond to them?  My strength is in not how I respond, but how I adapt and adjust. All these are signs of tolerating. So, I discover that tolerance is a strength, not a weakness, it is a gift in a storm, the light at the end of the tunnel.  With tolerance, I mature and grow in experience.  Each experience is a precious moment in my life.

Where there is love and commitment there is no feeling of having to tolerate.

Sometimes, we feel pain and resentment, both of which are negative qualities. We are unable to tolerate and instead feel empty and at a loss. Our capacity to tolerate is just not there and we start to re-act and blame. However, when we learn to just accept and move on, we again begin to fill ourselves with inner strength and our capacity to tolerate again increases. Difficult circumstances are like a mirror and we see ourselves in our real colors. My responsibility is to respond in the best possible way. Imagine a tree laden with fruits and a small boy throwing stones at it as he tries to get the fruit down. The tree doesn’t get upset with the boy but yields its fruit anyway. Let me learn to have such tolerance and my life will definitely become happier.

A good mother has so much tolerance for her family. She accommodates and adjusts and learns to fulfil the heavy demands and needs of each member. Why? Because she has a deep love and commitment and responsibility. Where there is love and commitment there is no feeling of having to tolerate. Where there is no love, the feeling of having to tolerate comes in.

Inspirations for the power to tolerate.

Love melts impatience.

Kindness reaches out to hardened hearts and makes them soft and kind.

Compassion creates confidence.

By remaining a companion of tolerance, we remain safe.

A silent mind and quiet heart bring the power to tolerate.

Tolerant people continue to inspire and carry on. They never give up.

Tolerance works like a bridge bringing everyone together and uniting.

Sometimes in life, we are forced to face situations in which we have no choice.

Tap inside and feel the power within; use the inspirations above to bring about change in your life and see how much happiness it can bring to you and others.

By Alka Patel

The Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University (BKWSU) is an international non-governmental organisation, which intends to help individuals re-discover and strengthen their inherent worth by encouraging and facilitating a process of spiritual awakening.




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