important little things in relationship

Little things in your relationship that matter more than you realise

The little things you do for your partner can have a big impact on your own wellbeing and as a result, on your relationship in the long run.
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Little Things on Netflix has been trending for more than a reason, relatability being a big one. The story revolves around the lives of Kavya Kulkarni and Dhruv Vats, a couple navigating the ups and downs of their relationship while building a life for themselves. They make up just as easily as they argue and fight. The series’ fan following declares it’s the little things that hold this small screen relationship together.

Not just on the television, but in real life too, ordinary acts can trump the grandest of them. They may seem insignificant but they keep relationships from falling apart. Small gestures such as paying compliments, greeting each other every morning, wishing good night, asking their partner about their day, doing something fun together are things that can truly solidify a relationship.

You may ask how that works. On a day-to-day basis, you make your partner feel valued, which adds to their wellbeing quotient. A study shows that “people who experience brief experiences of love and connection in everyday life have significantly higher levels of psychological well-being, which includes feelings of purpose and optimism.”

Moreover, the little things you do for your partner can have a big impact on your own wellbeing and as a result, on your relationship in the long run. These actions let your partner know that they are seen, heard, and understood. Here are a few small things you can do for your partner that can make your relationship healthier and happier.

Compliments

When you have been with your partner for a long time, it’s easy to take them for granted. It’s also easy to forgo appreciation and compliments because if you’ve made it this far, they should know how much they are valued. However, if you want your relationship to last, it’s essential to compliment each other from time to time. By telling your significant other how special they are, you make them feel good and acknowledge their presence in your life. Even if your partner knows deep down that they’re loved, hearing those words from you reaffirms that feeling.

Accomplishments

Organising a celebratory get-together when your partner is promoted at work or gifting them something meaningful to cheer for their achievement can truly strengthen your relationship. Such gestures show that you take your partner’s success as seriously as your own. According to a study published in Psychology Today: “People who show the most enthusiasm for their partner’s achievements have the least conflict in their relationship.” This little thing can go a long way in keeping your relationship healthy.

Thank yous and sorrys

Saying thank you is not that hard, yet so many people skip it in their intimate relationships. Not vocalising appreciation can sour a relationship over time. Feeling unappreciated gives way to resentment to the extent that may lead to negative conclusions. However, when you make a conscious effort to express your gratitude to your loved ones, it makes them feel special and cared for. You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to express your gratitude. You can say thank you if they took care of you when you were down with a cold or for just being by your side through the years.

Someone said, an apology is like a perfume that can transform a clumsy moment into a gracious gift.  The importance of an apology cannot be emphasised enough in intimate relationships. Saying sorry when you go wrong is not just ‘a good idea’ but essential if you want your relationship to be rock solid. Even though people know they should apologise, they may, at times, find it awkward to say they’re sorry. But not acknowledging your mistake openly to your partner can make them feel taken for granted, even if that’s far from the truth. A heartfelt apology can heal the deepest of emotional wounds.

Date nights

For many couples, spending time together on planned dates drops way down the priority order as soon as they tie the knot. And in some cases, it stops altogether. Since you are already spending so much time together, why do you need a date night? Well, think back to the early days of your relationship when you got all dressed up and found ways to see each other as often as you could. It brought you and your partner closer. Prioritising date nights even after years of being together will take you back to those days, allowing you to bond as a couple.

Affection

Little things such as holding hands, hugging, cuddling on a cold day with a cup of coffee are gestures that help you express your love for your partner. These quiet, simple ways of expressing affection tell your partner you care just as you did when you first met. A tight hug when your better half is low can make all the difference to their mood and spirits. Show of affection cements your bond against all odds.

Listening  

When you really ‘listen’ to your partner, you can understand their thoughts and feelings better. It doesn’t matter whether you’re helping them resolve an issue or simply listening to your spouse rant about a bad day, listening to them is key. Proactively listening to your significant other is a way to tell them they are important to you.

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