The thing about relationships is, everybody wants to be in one. But not everyone wants to fight for it when things go south.
Like in the popular sitcom Friends, I have a core group of friends and we hang out together all the time. We have a Joey, who is popular with the ladies, but hardly ever remains with anyone for longer than six months. We have a Ross, who has been in an on-and-off relationship with the same girl for nearly a decade now. And then we have a Chandler, the only person who has managed to stay in a loving relationship for many years.
My Joey-like friend has dated more girls than I can count but never had a serious relationship with anyone. For him, the early flame of a relationship is quite important, something that tends to go out after a few months. He once told me how he makes excuses to end conversations with all these women once the passion fizzles out. After that, every day feels like the previous day, as if he is stuck in a time loop. While my Joey-friend may not be an inspiration when it comes to relationships, he sure has a lesson to teach on what not to do.
My Ross-like friend has managed to sustain his now seven-year-long relationship, even though he does struggle with the on-again-off-again saga. Every time he feels the need to let go, he manages to hold his horses and find a way to reignite the spark. He takes his girlfriend to a romantic destination—somewhere new and exciting. And I admit, it does seem to add a fresh chapter to their love story, something they talk about for months with the rest of us until it is time to pack the bags again.
Finding the one might seem like a far-fetched dream, and when we do manage to achieve it, nothing seems more beautiful.