Friendship is probably the most valued of all relationships because a friend is totally my choice. Parents and relatives are not chosen but given to us, and that has its own inherent value. However, a friend is someone who speaks to our heart, someone to whom we feel a magnetic affinity.
When there is a mutual response between two persons who are becoming friends, then a relationship is born that can last a lifetime and even beyond a lifetime! Friendship is the coming together of equals. Even if there is a difference in abilities, roles or position, there is a vision of equality which does not create any feeling of superiority or inferiority.
This equality of vision permits unconditional acceptance of the other. This creates closeness. There is such a respectful closeness that one does not intrude on the personality of the other, nor does one harbour distaste for any weakness seen.
Since the vision is unlimited, the true goodness of the other is always kept as the measure of the other’s reality; the weaknesses are something foreign, which will make their exit at the appropriate time. Real friends can never divorce.
There is love which not only accommodates any shortcoming but also actively transforms it with a word of encouragement, smiling patience or an act of kindness. With a friend you do not have to prove yourself, for you are loved and accepted for what you are, and what you are is enough.
There is no need for spectacular achievements; all that a friend requests is to “be yourself”. A friend is a friend for all time when there is a need for support or a moment of joy to share. Good times or bad, a friend is ever present, ready to share, to serve, to listen or just to be there.
Friends always have a deep closeness to each other even if they are physically apart. This companionship conquers distance, time or any other type of separation. Their mutual empathy is the basis of their communication.