Sadhguru looks at how whether our experience of life is suffering and difficulty, or our existence here is graceful and wonderful, is determined only by us and not external situations.
Most of the time, people determine the course and nature of their lives by what they like and dislike–”I like this, so I do this.” Both what you like and what you dislike are two different kinds of bondages. Both what you like and what you dislike distorts your perception. If you like somebody, you will exaggerate them in your mind. If you dislike somebody, for sure you will exaggerate them in your mind. Exaggeration means you are unable to see things as they are. If you are unable to see things as they are, you can never handle life the way it should be handled.
What you like is not important. Have you made yourself in such a way that not just people, but just everything likes you, every creature around you likes your presence, even the flowers, the plants and the trees?
“How can the plants and the trees like me?” They are extremely sensitive to who you are. They respond accordingly. If you make yourself in such a way that the very earth that you walk upon likes you, then you will see, everything in your life will become a blessing. If everything around you dislikes you, everything that could be well-being could become a curse. Right now, there is no curse sitting on human life. It is things that people want, it is things that people aspire for, things that they work for, strive to have in their lives, which turn into curses in their lives–their work, their property, their relationships, their own body, their own mind, is the cancer of their life. They are suffering these things. It never rains misery. It is just that things that you like have become a source of misery.
Existing as a limb of the creator
A spiritual process is not about pursuing what you like–it is about striving to make yourself in such a way that even the birds like you, the squirrels like you, the insects like you, the mosquitoes love you! Otherwise, the very water that you drink, the air that you breathe, the food that you eat, can turn into poison in the system. All of it can become nectar, only if they like you. Making yourself in such a way that the creation and the Creator cannot help liking you, that is the striving. It is not about fulfilling your likes or destroying your dislikes. It is about making yourself in such a way that every atom in this existence likes you, wants to yield to you.