"We should choose very well what we allow to enter our mind, just as we choose the food which will enter our stomach, or people who will enter our house." - Dadi Janki
It may have occurred to you that you had a loving relationship with some friend and then something happened and the relationship which lasted for years suddenly finishes. During most of the time there was an exchange of giving and taking, and during a very short time–it may have been a day, or event just a few moments–an exchange of sorrow happens, but it is enough to change the feelings of both involved.
The past is easily forgotten, and the present is perpetuated. I start to judge the other person based on the present and think “Now I know who she really is, I never knew she was like this.” Why does this happen? It is because our consciousness is limited to the present. In fact, the person is a whole–that which she will be in the future. To see only one aspect is to label and limit the possibilities and potential of someone.
We are influenced by many different factors, and these may contribute for us to be in a happy, sad or angry mood– it may vary according to the weather, our health, our satisfaction at work, something someone said, if we had a nice sleep, and other infinite number of things. It would be wrong to evaluate someone by only his/her “today” and to have a feeling towards him/ her based on this “today”.
There is one question we could ask ourselves every night which would certainly contribute to form better relationships: What did I give from the heart to anyone? Better relationships will result if we give the best and take the best.