Stressfree life

Stress-free life

“When our ability to respond weakens, the quality of our response deteriorates, then we start making mistakes, getting angry and then pointing fingers at other.” – Brahma Kumaris
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Stress is unavoidable with today’s hectic lifestyle and can cause problems if it is not controlled. Here are a few ways to manage it.

The signs of stress always come prior to the physical symptoms. They can be in the form of mental or emotional pains and include anger, tension, anxiety and frustration. Do not take stress lying down. Pain is simply a messenger which comes to tell you there is something you need to change.

When experienced daily, these mental symptoms soon manifest through the body, in the form of physical disease. This is the psychosomatic factor. We understand that everything begins inside and then moves outside. In other words, whatever is happening within a person will affect his or her surroundings. The state of being creates the state of affairs.

When we are feeling stressed, we tend to point a finger at outer circumstances and other people as the causes of our stress, but they are only the triggers. There is a saying: “Sow a thought and reap a feeling. A feeling an attitude, an attitude an action, an action a character, a character a destiny.”

Only you create your thoughts–no one else is responsible for how you feel, for your attitude and how you respond to others and to events. This is most important in stress management–take control of your thoughts.

However, the pace of change driven by technology makes it difficult for our rate of response to keep up. We also give up our powers of creation to our technological toys, like the TV which has great influence on our thoughts and feelings.

Our creative ability is further impaired by the negative quality of energy which we “consume” from the media. When our ability to respond weakens, the quality of our response deteriorates, then we start making mistakes, getting angry and then pointing fingers at other. We blame circumstances, other people, the clock, the systems, the past, even our own personality for our feelings of stress.

While facing problems and difficulties, think that you are paying your dues for your past actions. Feel happy about it.

One aspect of freeing oneself from stress is to learn how to let go. Until you have accepted something, you can’t let go. Only with acceptance will you see the benefit. Experience victory in defeat and never give up or be disheartened as defeat is a step to further progress. See things as they should be, no exaggeration and imagination, otherwise the reality is lost.

What is life really? Life is meant for enjoyment. Try to mould and accommodate whenever possible. Those who mould themselves in every situation are real gold.

Here are some pointers to keep you going:

There are always at least a few direct or indirect advantages in every event of your life. Make it a habit to ponder over those advantages however small they may be.

Don’t feel sorry about what you had done yesterday because yesterday is now not in your hands. Also don’t worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow is yet to be born. Put all effort in making your today positive and successful.

Don’t feel inferior by comparing yourself with others. Remember that you are unique.

Consider your critics as your well-wishers.

Forgive all those people who have created hurdles in your life and made it more difficult to live. Unless you take this positive step, you won’t be able to forget all those unhappy and painful incidents.

Don’t try to solve many problems at a time. Divide all your problems in the form of compartments. Open only one compartment at a time when you are free from more productive work. Let all other compartments be closed.

Whenever possible, spare some time to help others. By rendering service to others, your worries, tensions and anxieties will definitely be minimised.

Have a positive attitude towards day-to-day events. By changing your attitude, you can transform pain into pleasure, sorrow into happiness and criticism into blessings.

If, in spite of all efforts, you cannot change a situation, don’t feel unhappy or depressed. Remember that time is the best healer.

Don’t think of taking revenge but make an effort to transform yourself. Thoughts of revenge will only increase your mental stress.

Don’t feel jealous about others. Instead, churn the gems of spiritual wisdom. Jealousy burns your mind and body, but spiritual wisdom will bring your solace, comfort and satisfaction.

When you give happiness to someone, happiness comes back to you with the same intensity. Always give happiness to others. Never even think of giving unhappiness to anyone.

While facing problems and difficulties, think that you are paying your dues for your past actions. Feel happy about it.

Make it rule to observe your thought pattern for a couple of minutes four to five times a day. Such a practice will prevent unwanted and unnecessary thoughts.

Practice meditation 15 to 20 minutes daily. Meditation takes you beyond the relaxation response and brings several physiological benefits.

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