She packed her bags and was contemplating leaving. She’d had enough of him, of their marriage. She took one last glance at the picture that hung on their bedroom wall. It was a picture of them taken during their wedding over five years ago. They both looked very happy, very much in love.
What happened to them? How did they end up this way? She threw herself on the bed, tears streaming down her face. As a couple, she knew that they’d been through enough. Their marriage was literally in tatters. But for some reason, she could not let him go. Somehow, she wanted to make things work with him, no matter what.
Can you relate to the above situation? If so, you’re not alone. Romantic relationships, in general, aren’t easy. And love, well, it is a complicated emotion. Initially, your heart beats faster. Your palms get sweaty, you become weak in your knees, and you feel warm and fuzzy. Over time, love sweeps you off your feet and manages to become a central aspect of your very existence. You start craving companionship and ardently pursue romantic relationships. But here’s the thing: although the spark of love may be enough to ignite a romantic relationship, it is not enough to keep its flames alive in the long run.
Several relationships fizzle out as quickly as they begin. When infatuation fades away (which it invariably does), disillusionment sets in. You see each other for who you are without being blinded by love. When you’re compatible, all is well; when you’re not, disappointment mounts, egos clash, making relationships unbearable. Sometimes even compatible couples could become too complacent in their relationship. They could feel bored, start taking their partner for granted or even become unfaithful by indulging in new amorous experiences. Or, relationships could get affected by external factors such as interference of family members or a financial crunch. Some might fret because they are unable to bear a child, whereas others might have to deal with the onset of a terminal illness or a disability.
Every relationship in its lifecycle is dotted with problems that test couples and the bond they share. But, no matter what the circumstance, there are always ways to resolve conflicts and stay strong. How a couple responds to and handles the challenges often decides the fate of a relationship. In this article, Soulveda explores how one can keep love alive even in the face of adversities.