Not all relationships have a ‘happily ever after’. Sometimes, relationships end sooner than we imagine. While the reasons for this abrupt end elude us, we wonder what we missed, what went wrong, and what we could have done differently. Even as we play out every possible scenario in the mind, we miss, what relationship experts refer to as, relationship red flags.
What are these relationship red flags? As dating psychologist Madeleine Mason Roantree explains, a red flag is “something your partner does that indicates a lack of respect, integrity or interest towards the relationship”.
In the early stages of a relationship, red flags can seem subtle. Even though they are there, they are overshadowed by feelings and emotions. As time passes and the flame of romance simmers down, these red flags start to become obvious. But, what if you have come a long way in your relationship and have a family together? That’s why it’s important to catch these ‘warning signs’ before it’s too late.
Here are 8 relationship red flags, which, if caught in time, can either help you work on your relationship or save you from an impending heartbreak.
Lack of communication
Communication is the key to a happy relationship. It helps partners understand each other, share their fears and concerns, and iron out the wrinkles in their relationships. But not everyone prefers to exchange words when the going gets tough. Many opt for silent treatment or shoving the problem under the rug to avoid confrontations. With this approach, you can spend a few weeks running away from a problem, but not years, let alone, the entire life. Such an attitude can poison the relationship in the long run.
If there is a lack of communication in your relationship, you should express your feelings to your partner. Be honest and open. Use words such as “we” instead of “I” or “you” for a healthy talk.
Insecurity and jealousy
Nothing breaks a relationship as hard and loud as insecurity and jealousy. While insecurity springs from the lack of mutual understanding and self-confidence, jealousy can creep into a relationship when a partner lacks trust and emotional maturity. Many partners overlook these two red flags when they first occur in a relationship. And this is why emotional distance and fights begin to unravel between two people.
Low self-esteem, dependency on your partner, and excessive emotional attachment are some of the reasons researchers have linked with insecurity and jealousy. Talking to a therapist or communicating your fears to your partner can help you deal with insecurity and jealousy. But before anything else, accept the problem. If you ignore the issue and do nothing to address it, it can cripple your relationship before it could blossom into something beautiful.