Be True to yourself

Be true to yourself: How to be a more authentic person

Embracing authenticity can result in increased self-worth, enriched relationships and personal growth.

How often have you been told to ‘be true to yourself’ while trying to be successful in life or finding acceptance from others? Chances are you probably have lost count. Whether you are preparing for a job interview or meeting prospective partners for your business, this is usually the first advice you get from your friends and your family. Although it sounds simple, being true to yourself is far from easy.

Let’s face it. Most of us are just trying to fit in and be accepted by others in all walks of life. The reason is quite simple: we all fear rejection. That’s why presenting an idealised version of ourselves seems like the best way to ensure we are accepted. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t adapt to a particular situation; however, changing our personality to please others is an issue we need to address. When we try to force ourselves to fit into the image created by others, we tend to lose touch with our true self—which isn’t healthy.

So, we need to be our authentic selves, especially in the age of social media, where we are constantly bombarded with perfect-looking pictures of influencers and personalities that often makes us feel insignificant. However, it’s important to understand that not everything that glitters is gold, and we do not need to copy someone in our pursuit of happiness. Remember, when you try to be true to yourself by becoming an authentic person, that can massively help boost your self-worth, enrich your relationships, and put you on the path of personal growth.

In her New York Times bestseller The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, author Brené Brown says, “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” So, here are some tips that can help you find your authentic self.

Accept your flaws

Accepting your flaws can be a herculean task, as it needs immense courage and self-acceptance. Think about it. When was the last time you opened up to a person about your mistakes or shortcomings? Let’s say you failed an exam or your work assignment turned out to be below par. You try to brush these failures under the carpet and try not to discuss them with others due to the fear of being rejected or made fun of. No matter how hard you find it to accept your faults, real progress is possible only when you don’t deny them. If you want to be true to yourself, you should try to acknowledge your mistakes and find ways to learn from them and emerge successful during your next attempt. Don’t reject your shortcomings and accept only accept parts of yourselves. Learn to embrace your entire being by being true to yourself.

Connect with your core values

Your core values are beliefs that dictate your behaviour. Knowing them can help you prioritise and make better decisions in life while keeping you true to yourself. When you have values, you have a better understanding of how you want to live your life or where do you see yourself in your career. They help you make the right decisions with which you can remain focussed on your goals. If you are not aware of your core values, start by paying attention to what you like to do and how you like to spend your time. Consider the experiences that shaped you over the years. Identify the core values that define yourself and examine how you can benefit from them. Discard negative core beliefs such as ‘I am not good enough’ or that ‘the world is a bad place’. These beliefs limit you from exploring your true potential. By letting go of them, you can be true to yourself and achieve success in all spheres of life.

Cultivate emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is key to carving out a path for yourself. According to Psychology Today, “Emotional Intelligence refers to the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others.” By developing emotional intelligence, you can become aware of your feelings and how they impact your life. It gives you the ability to separate your emotions from the truth, which helps you see things clearly and take appropriate actions. When you trust in your abilities, you gain the confidence to admit your mistakes and be true to yourself. You feel a sense of freedom, which can help you become an authentic person.

Get out of your comfort zone

Most of us want to avoid stressful situations as much as we possibly can. And that’s fine. It’s only natural to avoid conflicts and do things that we are comfortable with. But how often do we realise the disadvantages of such a mindset? If you remain habituated to stay within the confines of your comfort zone, you will find it hard to break free from old habits and patterns. However, when you gather the courage to step out of your comfort zone, you will learn to take risks and discover abilities that you didn’t know existed. Eminent author Roy T. Bennett says, “The comfort zone is a psychological state in which one feels familiar, safe, at ease, and secure. You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.” So, when you make an effort to step outside your comfort zone, it can help you become an authentic person.

Be accountable

When you hold yourself personally accountable, you take ownership of the situations that you are involved in, don’t make excuses, and don’t blame others for your mistakes. This quality builds trust as you are being honest about yourself and your capabilities. As a result, you come across as a genuine person, who is willing to accept the consequences of your actions. When you are consistently being authentic about who you are and what you do, you learn how to be true to yourself.

Practice what you preach

How often have you failed to keep your word while promising something to others? For example, you told your friends that you will meet them at 11 am but show up 30 minutes late. This behaviour is antithetical to the principles of being true to yourself. You should always practice what you preach and stick to your promises. When you try to become an authentic person, focus your attention on your daily actions and analyse if you follow the ideals that you have set for yourself and others. Ask yourself if your actions fall in line with your beliefs. You can become true to yourself by following the principles that you choose to define yourself.


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