I hope we can still be friends.
How many times have you said this at the end of a romantic relationship? More importantly, how many times have you actually stayed friends with them?
A breakup or divorce can be one of the most painful, emotionally stressful, and disruptive experiences in life. Whatever be the reason for the fallout and whether it was amicable or not, a failed relationship can launch you into uncertainty, trauma, and a mix of other negative emotions.
While there is no definitive right or wrong way to handle the end of a relationship, be it a breakup or a divorce, we all approach it differently. Some of us may want to forget the bad and salvage whatever good when a relationship ends, while others in a toxic or abusive relationship would rather prefer to move on and never look back, which may be for the best under the circumstances.
The untimely death of a romantic relationship is hard, as “A breakup can be worse than a bereavement,” says Miles Pulver, a relationship therapist. Letting go of the one you loved, bonded so closely with, invested portions of your life in, can be agonising. Perhaps, that is why experts around the globe advise keeping a distance from an ex-partner until the wounds are healed. But the real question is, do you have to let go of that bond completely? What if, you could still be in each other’s lives, albeit differently?