Are you in pain? Don’t look around for an answer. Try some self-analysis. Perhaps the answer is within.
Everyone has baggage. It could be the loss of a loved one, betrayal, heartbreak, or trauma. While most of us struggle with our emotional issues, we sometimes dwell on it for so long that it begins to define us. We no longer know what life would be without it. But there are a few who pick up their baggage and stroll leisurely through life.
So, what is it that these people seem to have and you don’t? The answer is quite simple—closure.
Closure means letting go of something that once was. Most people can’t get over pain, though it has nothing to do with its intensity. It is the way we treat it. Denying its existence does more damage than good, pretending to be strong doesn’t help either, and feeling sorry for ourselves is the worst thing to do. When we resort to measures like these, the pain doesn’t stop; it gets better for the time being, and then without warning, returns with a vengeance.
Closure is a point that has to be reached. So, let’s take it step-by-step.
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” – Ann Landers, American columnist.
Acceptance is the biggest and most crucial part of getting rid of your baggage. Stop denying what happened. It could be embarrassing, awkward, or hurtful; but once you say it out loud, you will feel better. The longer you wait, the more baggage you accumulate. But, once you accept something, you are no longer attached or clouded by that emotion. So, remove the positive and negative and try to view it from a pragmatic perspective. And once you feel you have rid yourself of the baggage, you maintain it. You continually work to prevent accumulating baggage again.
Even if they don’t work out the way you thought they would, you will still learn something new and valuable from every part you execute.