Many of us are hoarders, not of material possession but of memories and emotions. We all carry the baggage of our embarrassing and traumatic experiences and hurtful disagreements that we become used to live under their burden. What happens as a result—the scars of the past remain fresh, depression begins to haunt you, and happiness becomes a thing of the past.
Carrying your emotional baggage is like keeping your one foot in the past, one in the present, only to fall flat on your face. If you too are unable to unload the emotional baggage and unpack the tightly bound suitcase of hurtful memories and emotions, here’s how to dump the emotional baggage to make new memories in life.
If you’re feeling guilty
To err is human but to constantly feel guilty for your mistakes and bad decisions is not right either. If you have hurt someone, recognise your fault, accept, and apologise. Once this is done, look inwards and forgive yourself too.
Try a change of perspective. Talk to someone, a friend you trust, or an expert. Sharing lightens the burden. Create a ritual that helps you distance yourself from the guilt. Repeat a positive affirmation, or simply sit and self-reflect. Ask yourself what is the reason behind your guilt. Delve deeper into your subconscious mind. Once you have reached the roots of your worry, address the real problem.
If you’re full of regret
We all make decisions that often lead to regret. It happens to each of us. It’s okay to feel regret and grief, but don’t fall in their pit. Don’t waste time imagining the “What ifs” and “could haves”; it would lead you nowhere. Think of all the positives that came out of the situation, even if it is just a lesson. Learn from the mistake and move on.