Love is not an attachment

Love is not an attachment

The more you possess, the more you become afraid that the other will try to escape.
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Love is beautiful only when there is no attachment in it, but unfortunately, we have been told for thousands of years that love means attachment. That is one of the greatest calamities that has happened to humanity. Love does not mean attachment. It means just the opposite of attachment, because attachment creates a very unloving space. Attachment means you will be possessive and from the other side you will be possessed. Everybody wants to get out of the prison; hence the fear.

The more you possess, the more you become afraid that the other will try to escape. And to possess somebody is ugly. To possess means to reduce the other person into a thing, into a commodity. You can possess a car, you can possess a house, you can possess a painting but you cannot possess a woman or a man. You cannot possess a child. That is utterly destructive, inhuman. A child is not furniture, a woman is not a thing, a man is not a commodity. These are not economic objects. The moment you possess somebody you are exploiting and love cannot exploit.

And the moment you possess you are continuously afraid, anxious, worried, shaky, trembling deep down. There is always fear. It is bound to be there because to possess somebody means you are creating bondage for the other person, and nobody likes bondage; everybody resists it. Everybody wants to get out of the prison; hence the fear.

It is very rare to come across lovers who are friendly because possessiveness does not allow friendship to grow.

And when love and freedom go together, hand in hand, they create the most beautiful space possible. And it is only in that space that one comes to know the ultimate. That space is the temple of the ultimate. That space is the most precious phenomenon in existence.

Abridged from The old pond, plop by Osho

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