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Emotional joy and emotional sorrow

"When we become emotional, instead of influencing our self on our own, we allow something or someone outside our self to influence us." - BK Amola

We commonly become emotional, either in times of sorrow—being separated from a loved one, experiencing failure in an external event, on hearing a piece of negative news, etc. or in times of joy—when our child or spouse or even pet performs a warm act while watching a movie, etc. We have always believed that it is absolutely normal or natural to become emotional. Some of us even believe that it is good to let go of our emotions and cry once in a while for it makes us lighter and stronger. But on a spiritual level, becoming emotional comes under the realm of dependencies, and dependencies always weaken us.

This is because when we become emotional, instead of influencing our self on our own, we allow something or someone outside our self to influence us. We bring that something or someone or some event outside our self, inside, in front of the eye of our mind, attach our self to it, and lose our self in it.

Internal energy is given in the form of appreciation and love if it’s a positive scene and power, compassion and co-operation if it’s a negative scene, so as to help the scene to be corrected or resurrected

That is, we let the image hijack our internal world in a way, and become subservient to it. As a result, our thoughts, feelings, emotions, words, actions are influenced in a big way by the image. This is a spiritual definition of becoming emotional. Passing on the remote control of my internal world to the outer world in this way is a sign of a not so strong internal self.

So, what does one do instead? Instead of creating images of external events and people inside our minds and being influenced by them, we still watch these scenes unperturbed. Instead of losing our self in them and taking from them, we contribute to them by giving them our internal energy, making sure that while doing that, we are detached from them and not over-involved emotionally. Internal energy is given in the form of appreciation and love if it’s a positive scene and power, compassion and co-operation if it’s a negative scene, so as to help the scene to be corrected or resurrected. This is influencing instead of being influenced. This is a more empowering experience. In this way, we regain control over our inner world and rise above such emotional dependencies.

BK Amola

The Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University (BKWSU) is an international non-governmental organisation, which intends to help individuals re-discover and strengthen their inherent worth by encouraging and facilitating a process of spiritual awakening.

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