Worrying is creating a complete script of the outcome of a situation before it has happened and then using the story to scare ourselves. By worrying we are reducing our inner strength which we require to face the challenge. Every time you find yourself worrying, stop and tell yourself, “This story might never happen.” When the cycle of negative thoughts slows down, gradually change the quality.
Be aware of these patterns of thinking which drain our energy—criticising, worrying, controlling and obsessive thinking. Awareness means observing, checking and then gently changing. Controlling people and situations, creates a series of negative thoughts. Controlling means we are not happy with things as they are, we want them to change, which creates an internal struggle. With awareness, start accepting people and situations. Acceptance means no disturbance internally and then giving them our suggestion, direction or instruction. Focus should be on controlling our own thinking before trying to bring about a change outside.
Why worry and anxiety are easier to create?
Let us take simple scenes of our life to check how we react: Suppose your child has not reached home and his phone is not reachable. Are thoughts of worry and anxiety natural? You have worked very hard on an assignment and you get criticism in return. Are thoughts of hurt natural? You expect someone to behave in a particular way and they do not seem to understand. Are thoughts of irritation and anger natural?