“Anybody can become angry—that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way—that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” – Aristotle. If someone asks about the last time you were angry, you won’t have to think too far into the past. But, if you’re asked when was the last time you recognised and analysed the reasons behind your anger, a prompt reply is hard to come by.
Just like happiness and sadness, anger is a basic human emotion that everyone feels. Although fundamental, it is a powerful emotion that many people find difficult to manage. But, managing it is integral, as unruly anger can lead to violent or destructive behaviour. What is even more important is controlling rage before it starts to control you, and channelising it for positive outcomes.
Your immediate reaction when you feel yourself burning with rage decides how constructive or destructive its outcome will be. When handled in a healthy manner, anger can be transformed from a negative emotion to a positive one that can lead to a balanced and happy life. In this feature, Soulveda shares how you to find healthy, positive, and constructive ways to manage your anger.
Recognise your emotion
The foremost thing to do when you feel a surge of emotion—any emotion—is to acknowledge it. Identifying your emotions for what they are, is the key to harnessing them. In most situations, anger stems from the feelings of hurt or fear, and those who express their rage in abusive or violent ways usually claim to have been “taken over” by the emotion. But, even the anger that seems beyond control can be dealt with, if acknowledged timely and observed closely.
Talking about anger openly and objectively is elemental to developing a healthy anger-management plan for yourself.