Your happiness in life is a reflection of your relationship with yourself. Everything valuable to you—your goals, aspirations, people—starts from you. If you treat yourself with love and respect, you will attract positivity and happiness in life. It’s like what Robert Holden, author of the book Loveability: Knowing How to Love and Be Loved once said, “The relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
So, how exactly can you build a healthy relationship with yourself? Start by accepting yourself for who you are, which means making peace with both your strengths and flaws. Know what you are good at, and where you need to practice more.
But as strange as it may sound, building a healthy relationship with yourself is not easy. It requires work, dedication, and consistent efforts. You need to overcome your fears and mental blocks to truly embrace who you are. Meanwhile, if you listen to your inner critic and engage in negative self-talk, it can lower your confidence, and in extreme cases, cause depression too, according to research, Psychological Processes Mediate the Impact of Familial Risk, Social Circumstances and Life Events on Mental Health. So, if you want to lead a happy life, you must start building a healthy relationship with yourself. Here are a few tips that can help you start on this journey.
Communicate with yourself
An important part of loving yourself is paying attention to your thoughts and listening to what they are saying. Write them down in a journal. According to a study titled Emotional expression and psychological symptoms: A comparison of writing and drawing published in the journal, The Arts in Psychotherapy, journaling can help ease your stress. If you notice that you are getting bogged down by negative thoughts, change the way you talk to yourself. Make a conscious effort to change the words into something positive, such as “I believe in my abilities, I can do better or I have the power to change my mind.” How you communicate with yourself shapes your worldview, attitude, and behaviour. If you struggle with stress, depression and anxiety, it can help you gain control of your emotions and improve your mental health.
Don’t live to please others
You need to know that you don’t live your life to meet the expectations of others. When you try to fulfil those, you end up snubbing your dreams. Have faith in yourself and break away from this behaviour. When you start meeting your expectations, and not someone else’s, you take a big step towards building a healthy relationship with yourself. Remember, you have the potential to achieve your dreams irrespective of what others think about you.